I have heard about few people that never complain about their in-laws, however somehow I didn’t have a chance to meet them in person 😉
In general we can assume that usually there is some kind of a quiet competence competition between wives and mothers-in-law.
I am no different. I would be able to prepare a long list of pettiness regarding my mother-in-law, that I could then easily blow to the size of an elephant if needed.
But there is something I totally admire about my mother-in-law. Her absolute, not pretended calmness and self confidence in professional life.
She was a manager from the old school. Clear no nonsense approach, strict but human attitude, deep knowledge. Sometimes her people hated her but then loved her even more because she was usually right. I had a chance to meet a few of them and they still admire her even after many years in retirement. Living legend.
It reminds me one story from theatre I was told; it is easy to be the King on the stage, you don’t have to do anything, it’s the other actors who play it for you. In real life there is a big difference between managers that are playing the king (because their subordinates have to pretend that they respect them anyway) and real leaders.
Real leaders have a deep sense of integrity, loyalty and service. Touch of humor and humanity is also welcomed. But first of all most of them love their job and the teams they lead. It is not easy to be one, because you have to watch your own standards at the first place.
My mother-in-law was the real King.